The worst thing in bereavement

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Transcript for “The worst thing you can do through a bereavement”

It’s a common reaction but the worst thing you can do through a bereavement is to isolate yourself. Do you find yourself wondering if it will be possible to meet someone who could care as much? How would anyone take the time to get to know you so deeply? Do you want to protect yourself for fear of loving and losing again with the turmoil and mix of emotions you can’t even name?

Of course there are times you want to be alone but if you actively seek to spend all your time alone or withdraw when with others, take a look at whether this is the kind of life you want.

What you are going through is probably normal.

If you have loved and lost you may well know that the experience is less like a gentle wave and more like a tsunami that destroys all in its path before retreating like an invisible foe carrying away critical parts of life, leaving in its wake plenty of debris that confuses what is left. Know that you are not alone, not going crazy, and that you, like others, can thrive.

Sometimes things seem too scary to voice but as part of the Grief Recovery method training I learnt that it’s beneficial to write things down and even more so to say them out loud. But it actually had an even stronger effect on the brain to say things out loud to someone else. There’s wisdom in getting things off your chest and out of your system.

It’s important to have a safe place to grieve. If you don’t have someone in your life that you feel safe talking to then find someone where you can speak honestly and openly and know you’re being heard. People are often out of their depth with another person’s unhindered grief and sorrow. Find someone that can provide that space for you.

If you have any comments please feel free to contact me. If any of this resonates with you and you are ready to love life again, email my clinic now to book in for an initial consultation where I can determine how best to give you the support and strategies you need.

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